In my post last week on how we’re too used to debt as a society, I got some great comments. (Love how you guys really engage with the posts! It makes a blogger happy.) 🙂
One comment in particular really struck me…Janine from My Pennies My Thoughts said:
When I have coworkers telling me that I’m just going to have to get used to debt because everyone has it, I cringe.
I can so relate to that. There seems to be this mentality in our society that life sucks, that’s just the way it is, and if you try to say or live otherwise, you can bet people will try to bring you down!
What’s wrong with wanting to like your life?
As a Pollyanna, Susie Sunshine type, I’m always looking for ways to be happier, whether it’s at work or in my daily life. And I know that this annoys people. I’ve actually had coworkers tell me, when I try to look on the bright side of a situation, “Why do you have to be so perky all the time?”
My answer (at least in my head) is always “Why wouldn’t you want to be optimistic? Would you rather be miserable and cynical?”
Unfortunately, the answer seems to be “Yes” most of the time.
The best I can figure is that these people are afraid I’m going to make them look bad, or that if I show them it’s possible to be happier about things, they’ll have to try a little harder to break out of their cynical rut, and they don’t want to do that. But I’m not trying to be a suck-up or put up a false front…I just genuinely live my life with as much happiness as I can find. Because I don’t see the point in being miserable when you don’t have to be.
But that doesn’t seem to be the general opinion.
I have a friend who recently worked super-hard to start her own business, which she loves and she’s so much happier now (even though it’s a ton of work.) And the whole time she was working on creating this business (while she still worked her full time job), everyone kept telling her to just be happy she had a job to begin with, and that “everyone hates their jobs,” so why didn’t she just get used to that like everyone else?
Why get used to being unhappy?
Just like Janine pointed out in her comment, so many people seem caught up in the idea that life is supposed to be tough and that we’re supposed to compromise a lot once we become adults. We’re supposed to hate our jobs, go into a ton of debt, never really be satisfied…and then grumble and complain about that like it’s some sort of accomplishment? And try to “take people down a peg” if they want to be happier?
There is something seriously wrong with this way of thinking. It makes me sad, angry, and frustrated all at once…and even more determined to try to live a happy life just to show others it can be done. (Whether they want to believe it or not.)
What’s your experience been? Have you encountered this awful “why be happy?” attitude in your life?