Stepping into someone else’s home is like crossing into uncharted territory where the do’s and don’ts might not align with yours. Afraid of offending your host? Steer clear of these 15 activities if you’re hoping to secure another invitation
Opening the Drawer
It’s not just cats that get into trouble with curiosity; it can also make guests less than welcome. Steer clear of peeking into drawers and cabinets. They’re off-limits for a reason, and poking around might just end up in an awkward situation or a broken trust.
Adjusting Windows and Thermostat
Resist the urge to adjust the windows or thermostat. These are domains typically reserved for the host, who’s likely got the environment set just so for their comfort.
Feeling too hot or cold? A polite request is your best bet.
Touching or Interacting with Pets
Pets are family, and just like with humans, boundaries matter. Always ask before interacting with your host’s pets. This respect for space and comfort goes a long way in establishing trust and rapport.
Asking for the Wi-Fi Password
While it might be tempting to ask for the Wi-Fi password upon arrival, patience is a virtue. Wait for your host to offer. This shows you’re there for the company, not just the connectivity.
Wearing Shoes
Many homes operate on a no-shoes policy for cleanliness and comfort. Take a cue from your host or, when in doubt, simply ask. Your shoes might be your style statement, but indoors, socks or bare feet might be the norm.
Opening the Fridge and Cupboard
The kitchen is often the heart of a home, but that doesn’t make the fridge or cupboards open season for guests. If hunger strikes, communicate rather than be rude at their house.
Your hosts would appreciate the courtesy, and you might avoid an awkward situation.
Smoking
In today’s health-conscious world, lighting up a cigarette or e-cigarette inside someone’s home without permission is a definite no-go. If you must smoke, ask where it’s appropriate to do so, and respect the boundaries set by your host.
Using their Personal Products
Resist the allure of personal products in the bathroom. If you’ve forgotten something, ask. Using someone else’s items without permission is a breach of personal space and can be uncomfortable for your host.
Wandering through the Bedroom
The bedroom is a personal sanctuary, not a museum for guests to wander through. Unless you’re invited, consider it off-limits. This rule is especially crucial for the bed – a personal space that requires a direct invite before you decide to take a load off.
Knocking without Being Invited
A home’s door is not just a barrier to the outside world; it’s a portal requiring permission. Knocking or ringing is basic manners when visiting someone, regardless of the door’s status—locked or not. And remember, timing is key; arriving unannounced or at an unexpected time is more of a faux pas than a pleasant surprise.
Reading the Mail and Bill
Stumbling upon your host’s mail or bills? Step away. These items are personal, and even a glance could be considered invasive. Respect privacy as if it were your own.
Using the Remote Control
The remote control may seem small, but in the realm of home entertainment, it holds great power. Unless it’s offered to you, let your host run the show. This respect extends to all electronics; your host’s preferences for background music, temperature, and ambiance set the tone for their home.
Peeking into the Medicine Cabinet
While it might seem harmless to peek into the medicine cabinet for a forgotten toiletry, tread carefully. This cabinet holds more than just toothpaste; it’s a private space for personal health items.
If you’re in need, it’s better to ask your host directly rather than investigate on your own.
Entering the Workspace
A home office or workspace is off-limits unless you’re explicitly invited to use it. These areas are as sacred as diaries for some, filled with personal projects and possibly sensitive information.
Using their Computer
In an age where our lives are digital, the personal computer likely holds tons of private information. Even if you need to check something quickly, always ask before using your host’s computer. It’s not just about privacy; it’s about respecting the boundaries of personal and professional life that often merge in these devices.
