Good morning Loves. This past weekend I was channel surfing and landed on the Millionaire Matchmaker. Have you seen this show? I have admittedly seen the show before, but I’ve never watched a full episode. This time I sat through the entire show and to be honest I was a little disturbed.
For those of you who haven’t seen the show, Millionaire Matchmaker shows the day in the life of the founder and her staff as they try to help rich people find their perfect mate. I am not sure if it’s the financial planner in me or it’s because I am a woman who makes my own money. But the thought of men searching for women who want to marry rich really bothers me.
Should we pay to meet our mate?
Millionaire Matchmaker is a fee based club that millionaires join in the hopes of finding their one true love. They are set up in a social mixer situation where they can mingle with several potential mates and choose two to go out with on an official date. This whole scenario has me wondering, if we can’t find our true love out there in the real world can we really find them in a contained environment? I’m not so sure.
I have been lucky to be with my boyfriend for several years. If I was single I’m not sure I would pay money to meet my soul mate. I don’t think I would join a club or subscribe to an online dating service just to check the married box. I know a lot of couples who met online and are still together, some even got married. But I’ve also heard a lot of horror stories about online dating. I hate wasting money. If I pay for a service I better get my money’s worth.
Then there’s the prenup question
If men are joining Millionaire Matchmaker to meet women who want to marry rich I have to ask, what are they getting themselves into? Women who have no ambitions and just want to marry men for their money are gold diggers. Aren’t they?
Maybe these rich men (and sometimes women) will find true happiness through the Millionaire Matchmaker. Maybe they will fall in love and spend the rest of their very well off lives with someone. But in the back of their mind wouldn’t they always be wondering, did she just marry me for my money?
I hope these savvy business men are smart enough to have their future Mrs. sign a prenuptial agreement. But would the bride-to-be sign it? If you are a woman and you want to marry rich would you sign a prenup? I don’t think so.
Can you base a relationship on money
I am the first to admit that every couple has to be on the same page when it comes to money, otherwise the relationship probably won’t work. However I am not convinced that a relationship based entirely on money would work out either.
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Just a few comments, I have seen the show for the 7 years it has been on, mostly like I watch any other reality show (Infested, Hoarders, Turtleman) purely for entertainment. It seems these millionaires have not had time to find a true mate and I can imagine the challenges of trying to date on their own in their income bracket. If they want to pay someone (is it $50,000?) to help them find love, then I don’t fault them. The potential dates are not all looking for money but seem to have enough interests to be compatible with the client. Just like “The Bachelor” and like dating online, you don’t know til you try. As with any human relationship, some of them work out and some break your heart. Mike, the Text the Romance Back guy says a prenup is like a seat belt, you hope to never have to use it but if you do, you’ll be glad you have it. Personally, I like peeking into the beautiful places they let us tag along to!!
I agree Michelle I like being a fly on the wall on others people’s dates, even though mostly it’s just awkward. I also like to see the types of things rich people do on dates. It’s always so much better than dinner and movie.
I love watching the millionaire matchmaker! I’m glad to see that the girls are mostly cultured women with lives of their own.
I’m the type of person who believes that you should meet that special someone in your day to day life, not through anything online. That being said, I was having difficulty meeting the right people and decided to try online dating and use a more expensive matching service. So far, no luck and I’m finding out that from the expensive matching service, I am not getting my money’s worth. I have given oodles of feedback to them and some of the matching still seems rather random.
I agree that couples need to be on similar pages when it comes to finances, if you’re not, it’s bound to lead to troubles.
That’s true. Couples definitely need to be on the same page financially, right from the beginning. Especially if you are in your 30s or older. I think people should meet the old fashioned way too. Don’t worry maybe one day you will be walking down the street and bump right into your soul mate 🙂 That’s kind of how it happened to me, sort of. I bumped into my boyfriend at a party and we’ve been together ever since.